myschyf | (no subject)

"Don't compare pain, it doesn't do any good and will probably hurt someone in the end."

I've said that, in a zillion different ways, for years. And I definitely believe it. Something occurred to me today though. No one's tempted to compare joys in the same way (Well, at least in my experience). When people share joy, each person's contribution is celebrated and isn't thought to be diminishing anyone else. Why are we allowed to be happy but not sad, angry or in pain?

Of course, living in a society where happiness is celebrated (and often forced), anger and sadness are suppressed and pain is something to get over, I almost understand. But I still don't really get it.

So, what do y'all think?

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

maybe because sadness and pain are something to be endured, so we want to say "oh, well i lived through x, y and z, so your p and q are nothing to what i've been through" or something like that. stupid and ridiculous things to do or say, trivializing someone's pain in that way, but done nonetheless.